Hey i just wanted to ask if anyone understands this.
Ok so ive known this guy for about a year not very well but about a month ago maybe more he got my number and non stop was we txting each other for a week. He was saying things like "ive finally got your number i can actually tell you what i think of you with out all the nerves" and " i think that we would be good together" being really sweet. Then one weekend he said he wanted to see me soon, so he asked me if i wanted to go for a walk or something. It was my brothers birthday so i thought id invite him ( he's close with my brother) Then we both ended up getting way to drunk and ended up sleeping together which both of us know was not ment to happen, he then later on told me he wanted to be friends with me. I saw him the next week in town he was drunk so was i. I was really angry so i called him a player. He said " im not a player the only playing i do is cards" and "i just wanted to take it slow". I havent seen him or spoke to him since but i was talking to his best mate today and i said "hows the player" he replied " hes not a player he just doesnt no how to handle the situation" and "he really liked you but you slept together and your his mate he doesnt no what to say to that" and " none of it wud have happened if you to never slept together". So obviuosly im slightly confused on wether i just got played or wether hes scared of commitment or what does anyone have any ideas or is everyone confused like me lol

First off, you can't accuse anyone of being a player when you brought it on yourself.

Second, he obviously likes you more than you think, because he wanted to take it slow. The situation you both put yourselves in literally 'jumped the gun' and shot/killed his timescale. Now he's trying to figure out what to do. A relationship that, previously, would have been romantically intimate (which is what he wanted) will now probably only be about sex - and I don't think he desires that, or he would've just hooked up with you from then.

Third, maybe you should stop drinking until you can control yourself better. This whole situation wouldn't have happened if not for your inability to control your emotions. Also, a drunken rage can put off many people, including this guy, so cut that out as well.

In short: No, you didn't get played. He's just taking his time, so take some as well.

sounds alot like drinking messed everything up.
as usual.

If he wanted to take it slow then he's not a player.

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