Alright, it's time to set the record straight. For our male public, I would like the ladies to provide a general list of traits they look for in a guy they would consider having a romantic relationship with (dating to sex). Because there are 2 sides to what women look for in men (conscious and subconscious traits) I will address what I know of these "hidden" traits after the ladies have had their say.

Girls, please use details details details. Think about it like education - you're molding the perfect man for your future (or current) self. So please provide as much information as possible on each trait.

Example:

* Protective - I want him to be able to stand up for himself and me in any situation.
* Assertive - I want him to be able to make things happen - from a restaurant where the waiters are taking too long - to asking me out, where he doesn't bullshit around with the formalities.
* Honesty - Doesn't have to lie, even if he cheats. He just tells it how it is, never hiding anything or telling half-truths.

These are just examples though, provide more information if possible and as you see fit.

So let's see what women really want.

honestly, what i look for in a guy is simple..
safety, honesty, love ,and chivalry
i want to feel safe and loved when he holds me. even if its just a two second hug, i want to remember it...maybe he says a word unique to me when he hugs me, or a tight hug, what ever, just live the hug!!!!
honesty is important, because i have to know i can trust him....if hes trustworthy he wont cheat, and if he does, he would tell (almost never happens like that). theres an importance of trust on all levels.if i feel like i can trust him not to push me too far sexually, it will earn him points to go farther, and if we're out driving, i can trust him not to drink, and not go crazy...
finally, chivalry... Yes, women want to be equal (b/c we are) and want equal pay, rights and jobs, but i think most women also want to have the door opened for us, and ladies first, and flowers and chocolates, and i love yous. also, i think that most girls would agree with me when i say huh? magazine polls say guys want girls to make the first move b/c the guy is too nervous... bull crap. most girls who have a head on their shoulders will know that even if hes REALLY shy, if he likes her that much, he will grow some balls and ask her out.

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what you say and what you do
only make me think of you
what can i say,im in love with you
i can only hope you'll love me too...

Weren't you the one complaining about not finding a boyfriend? Hmm...

And to the chivalry: If you want equal rights, then earn em. Don't be asking for special treatment such as the door holding and shit if you won't give them yourself. You don't want equal treatment, you want BETTER treatment.

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This is what I want in a guy:
Honest: Don't lie to me if something is wrong tell me. Please dont hold anything back because you think it will hurt my feelings.
Protective: Be able to protect me, and yourself. Don't runaway if a gun is pulled on me or something like that.And if some guy is bothering me, help me out!
Assertive be assertive enough to ask me out. dont make me wait that might make me think you dont like me.
Romantic: Dont think that sitting on your bed while you play videogames is romantic. Go dancing (Which i love) or out to the beach. But do something we'll both love to do.
Attentive Pay attention, know when im sad or mad. And pay attention to my life. Dont forget my birthday! OR any other important dates like that. Pay attention to me i'll do the same to you.
But most of all be yourself. Don't pretend to be something your not just to get me to like you. It'll just make me not like you. A relationship should be made of honesty not lies. Treat me respectifully and I'll do the same to you. Understand I have some days I wanna be left alone and others when I'm angry. You get to understand my ways after awhile. Don't think im weird just because I'm not like everyone else. Like me BECAUSE Im different. Looks dont matter to me, all I care about is personality. I'm not shallow, and I dont like being played.
Well thats most of them Hope it gives you some insight. If i had more time i'd probably list more. Hope it helps.

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A Little Rebellion is a good thing.
Don't let someone tell you what to do.
I have problems with authority, so dont boss me around. I may act tough but inside I'm like every other girl. If you can't take me at my worst you dont deserve me at my best. Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind dont matter and those who matter dont mind.

Chivalry has nothing to do with rights. It's is a woman's nature to be weaker, and more fragile, Chivalry is a form of protection and a show of power. I made a post about it but I can't link you guys to it without getting banned xD

So PM me if you want the details.

She said she wanted to be treated equal, but also with chivalry. It's one or the other, because they are different.

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Protective: Has to be able to stand up for me, not necessarily aggressively, but supportive, even if the offender is a mate of his.

Assertive: Has to be able to speak up when he disagrees with something, and talk if something is wrong. Needs to be able to take control of conversations. Needs to be able to make things happen if they matter that much to me, and not afraid to ask me out etc.

Romantic: Needs to understand that I'm a girl. Needs to like to buy me gifts once in awhile, but not go overboard and try to smother me. Needs to spend time alone with me and understand that i need to hear the "L" word once in awhile.

Attentive: Needs to be able to listen and respond when i talk, and actually care about what I say. Needs to be able to talk about everything. Needs to know when im sad and need him, and needs to understand that I am a girl and tend to be just a little more emotional than the average guy.

Genuine: Needs to be able to be himself, not act different around mates or me. Needs to feel free to talk and share about his life without lying. Needs to be honest about everything even if he thinks it will hurt me. Needs to be comfortable with himself and able to have a good laugh.

Mature: Well that one pretty much says it all. I dont want to be going to bed with someone who has spiderman sheets and wants to watch cartoons before he goes to sleep... haha

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I am somewhat of a shallow person. I don't care, it is who I am, I'm not going to make acceptions for ANYONE.
Physical appearance:Must be tall, dark hair, preferably colored eyes, not fat or even close to fat. Good style. Very clean cut. (:
Intelligence: I am not bragging when I say I have a very bright intellect. He has to be able to converse with me about subjects past sex and food.
Outgoing: I do not like them shy. Shy-ness is very unattractive and makes me feel awkward, because of my shy-ness. He must know how to have fun (:
Sarcasm: Be sarcastic, and don't take my sarcasm seriously. I fuck with people's minds a lot.
Honesty: I think it's stupid listing the honesty thing, but I do want a guy to be honest with me. There is no reason for him to lie to me simply because I have no reason to lie to him. I am very straight-forward about everything.
Individuality: I do not want a clone. He has to be unique with his physical appearance and personality.

That's pretty much it. (:

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A pulse, humour and nice eyes is a must.

Umm... Details.

First off... I'll be honest. I always keep a look out for sexy men. ( My idea of sexy: Tall: no shorter then 6ft, Dark hair, Bright eyes: Green, Gray, Blue, not really fit but having a sense of power or strength and nice clothes.)

When I'm shopping or out with friends, these physical qualities are what I keep an eye out for.

Other things I want in that perfect male specimen:

A sense of humor but not that childish shit (Ex. "Haha, Dude, I just farted!")

Independence... I dont want some guy glued to my side 24/7. "He" needs to be comfortable enough to go hang with his guy friends without my permission.

I also want a guy who can stand up for himself. I want someone who is not afriad to fight with a woman. I can stand on my own two feet and if I feel like screaming, I want someone who will scream back.

He needs to have some form of idea for his future and be working towards that.
Have a job... I dont want to be someones bank account.

Good hygiene. Clean teeth.

I also like guys with tattoos. The Bad Boy image it really hot.

Active but also likes to sit at home and hang out.

Smart but not a show off about it.

I could go on forever...

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