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ViVi_123 · #1 (**permalink**) 03-29-2008, 09:34 PM

Okay so, My bf of 6 months I met on an online chat and he is the sweetest thing the world could offer. We started talking on AIM then we switched to the phone. Our relationship is utterly serious and we often send eachother things back and forth to eachother accross the country and flatter eachother with nude pictures and what not. So, I can assure you this relationship is not immature..Anyway. He is the sweetest guy I have ever met. He does everything to keep our relationship going its overwhelming. I can not explain to you how deep in love I am with him he is my everything and nothing can compare..But, there is a problem with our realtionship..Other than the fact he lives accross the country, he has multiple diseases and illnesses, none of which are extremely noticable at first.., but can be at times, he has schizofrenia, bipolar disease, fear of almost anything, including people, and he has brain damage, and to add that on hes is neglected, abused, made fun of, just pretty much about evrything u can imagine..I was okay with all of it, but now..Its getting extremely hard to handle. I am on the phone with him 24/7 literally because he cant function right when hes not talking to me, he gets depressed and slits his wrists and just a whole bunch of junk. When I tell him to hold on or that I have to go somewhere he totally FREAKS out on me, he is either sad and cries or yells at me and says he'll never talk to me again and stuff, be reminded, he CANNOT control it. Also, and this makes me seem very mean..but theres ALWAYS something wrong, things that I am too coward to mention, but things with me and him are never normal, im always calming him down, trying to get him to relax and what not. Mine and his relationship has caused me to loose my best friends, become completely isolated from my family, start to skip school alot, and be put on anti-depressants. Talking with him now, makes me insane, although, I love him so much. I cant let go of him, I tried to just earase him from my mind, I have broken up with him twice..Both times he tortured himself...last time he broke half of his fingers by smashing them into lockers..I felt so bad..I know if I leave him hes bound to kill himself...I have no idea what to do with mine and his relationship..Any advice wil help..Ask any questions if needed, Please, Just take the time to reply to this..Im really loosing my mind.

[[υηѕтσlєη]] נ є ω є l♥ · #2 (**permalink**) 03-31-2008, 04:17 AM

Hmm....Good story!!!! loved it..no advice xD

Dark Inferno · #3 (**permalink**) 03-31-2008, 09:25 AM

Get him some medical help with the schizophrenic stuff. Trust me, it can be a complete and utter nightmare, particularly with schizophrenia. Bipolar on top must make it incredibly difficult same with the paranoia. Have you only just noticed this? Why not call someone for some professional advice?
This point he'll need you the most, no matter what happens, he needs you the most. 'Cause breaking up a relationship and going through that all at once, that would be the worse possible scenario I could ever imagine. If you truly love him, you'd stay with him and search for some medical advice/help. Trust me, schizophrenia? Its hard to deal with and the paranoia makes it even worse, with the break up on top of that? Imagine what that would be like from his point of view. Yes, it is a sensitive time, for you, but if you seek medical help for him, it'd be best, I think. Whatever you do, don't break up with him at this point, for I fear, it could lead to something worse.

Anyone with schizophrenia, bipolar, probably depression on top of that and a break up? That would be an utter nightmare to go through. Trust me, please, you don't know the ins and outs of schizophrenia... what its like for that person to go through - you say you do from just seeing him, but I ask, do you really know what its like? Every person's schizophrenic experience is different, yes, I'm aware of that. Don't ask me how I know its hell, I just know this stuff from the shizophrenic side to things.

My advice: Stay with him - at least as a friend, if nothing more... and seek some medical advice/help. Hope this advice sheds some light on the matter. No doubt he hears voices because of the fear of people, paranoia, you've mentioned. I'm willing to bet they are very commanding. When I mean very, I mean like orders and people's voices he can identify with, 'cause you've mentioned the fear of people. That's probably why. Good luck, hope this helps.

[[υηѕтσlєη]] נ є ω є l♥ · #4 (**permalink**) 03-31-2008, 03:04 PM

Do you think she is gonna read that? Pfft

Dark Inferno · #5 (**permalink**) 03-31-2008, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by [[υηѕтσlєη]] נ є ω є l♥

Do you think she is gonna read that? Pfft

She will if she wants some advice. Otherwise, what would be the point in asking for help and posting in here? Pffft, it common sense really and besides, you read it, no doubt else you wouldn't be replying to this.

So yes, I think there's a 50/50 chance she'll read it.

[[υηѕтσlєη]] נ є ω є l♥ · #6 (**permalink**) 04-01-2008, 08:16 AM

Yeah i agree, Sometimes i am just dumb...Should think before i talk

Njord · #7 (**permalink**) 04-03-2008, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by ViVi_123

Okay so, My bf of 6 months I met on an online chat and he is the sweetest thing the world could offer.
We started talking on AIM then we switched to the phone. Our relationship is utterly serious and we often send eachother things back and forth to eachother accross the country and flatter eachother with nude pictures and what not.

Get a life. You just proved your whole story pathetic with this one paragraph. Find a real boyfriend you can touch, genius, not some 40 year old guy sending you pics of his grandson.

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So, I can assure you this relationship is not immature..

It's digital. Immature.

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Anyway. He is the sweetest guy I have ever met.

You've never met him.

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He does everything to keep our relationship going its overwhelming.

What? Comment you on Myspace and call you everyday? Get in a real rellationship and find out what it's all about kid.

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I can not explain to you how deep in love I am with him he is my everything and nothing can compare..

Probably because you've never had nothing comparable to a relationship before. You aren't in love with him, you're blinded by stupidity, ignorance, lust, and the quest for the unknown.

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But, there is a problem with our realtionship..

Not a relationship.

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Other than the fact he lives accross the country,

Which means it isn't a relationship.

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he has multiple diseases and illnesses, none of which are extremely noticable at first..

Now I know he isn't real. He's a chronic liar as well.

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he has schizofrenia, bipolar disease, fear of almost anything, including people, and he has brain damage, and to add that on hes is neglected, abused, made fun of, just pretty much about evrything u can imagine..

Hahaha, Njord sees why you're attracted to him now. To be soothing to someone else is a want for many humans, he's playing your emotions. Still, to have all of these diseases/ailments at once is near impossible. Not to mention, a child who is diagnosed with that many diseases means he went to a very expensive doctor/psychiatrist. And I'm sure an abusive parent wouldn't care what he had.

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I was okay with all of it, but now..Its getting extremely hard to handle.

Of course, because he's adding new ailments everyday.

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I am on the phone with him 24/7 literally because he cant function right when hes not talking to me, he gets depressed and slits his wrists and just a whole bunch of junk.

He's lying.

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When I tell him to hold on or that I have to go somewhere he totally FREAKS out on me, he is either sad and cries or yells at me and says he'll never talk to me again and stuff, be reminded, he CANNOT control it.

You don't even know him. Honestly, he has you so twisted it's ridiculous. Get a alife and realize that this child needs to find someone near him to relate to his problems. How can you, who lives across the continent, cure or soothe his ailments?

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Also, and this makes me seem very mean..but theres ALWAYS something wrong, things that I am too coward to mention, but things with me and him are never normal, im always calming him down, trying to get him to relax and what not. Mine and his relationship has caused me to loose my best friends, become completely isolated from my family, start to skip school alot, and be put on anti-depressants.

Are you fucking crazy? You're losing your whole life over a guy on the internet. You seriously need professional help. Njord would suggest erasing his number, deleting your Myspace and any other personal webpages you have online, and blocking his number from all of your groundlines, before this guy has you killing yourself.

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Talking with him now, makes me insane, although, I love him so much. I cant let go of him, I tried to just earase him from my mind, I have broken up with him twice..Both times he tortured himself...last time he broke half of his fingers by smashing them into lockers..I felt so bad..I know if I leave him hes bound to kill himself...

HE IS LYING TO YOU CHILD. ALL AN ACT. And don't fucking come to me with that, I don't know shit about your life, because Njord did the same thing when he was 12. Njord had an 18 year old girl wrapped around his finger, and it was seriously pathetic. This happens everyday kid, you need to get a grip.

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I have no idea what to do with mine and his relationship..Any advice wil help..Ask any questions if needed, Please, Just take the time to reply to this..Im really loosing my mind.

End it. This is the most unhealthy thing ever. Someone who isn't even concrete in your life, controlling your emotional habits. That's pathetic and you need to seriously get a grip on who you are.

Dark Inferno · #8 (**permalink**) 04-20-2008, 02:32 PM

^And that's the reason why I never post my emotional relationship issues on these forums unless I'm really desparate for some advice... 'cause otherwise, you just get mauled. I'm surprised the mods haven't noticed the previous post.

Failure To Comply · #9 (**permalink**) 04-20-2008, 04:26 PM

Everyone knows about how Njord posts...but unfortunately, most of them are true... I agree with Njord...

Tiffany · #10 (**permalink**) 04-20-2008, 06:09 PM

Harsh but true =/

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