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Old 04-03-2008, 01:39 PM
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Unhappy Is She Lying About Being Raped?

If you read, please respong with advice, support, opinions, or any other help...thank you in advance...

My GF told me recently told me that she was molested multiple times when she was younger and then when she was 13 raped by a friend of the family and at 15 she was raped by her uncle. Her story does not add up...at all. Her 1st story was this: Her mom went away on biz and left her with a friend of the family, (a woman) and when another friend was over, he raped her. She told the friend who was watching her and she took her to get an abortion. The woman was not her parent or legal guardian and shes too young, right? How could she take her to get an abortion when you have to be 18 in the state of LA??? Well the 2nd story goes like this: She was at a party for her b-day with a handful of friends at a hotel, she got a drink but her uncle suposedly sneaked in the hotel by the pool area and slipped sumthin in her drink. She later got a headache and went to the hotel room (which was separate from her moms) and went to sleep, her bf checked on her occasionally and later her uncle came up and raped her. How could her uncle get in the room without the key card??? Why would no one notice??? IS she makin this up?? idk and its messing with my head...oh and She never told anyone, but got real defensive when i asked who they were. idk...she has lied about a lot of things in the past to me...she had tendencies to lie. and what gets me is that the stories do not add up at all...
She is eager to talk about it at times and seems not to hav a problem with it. One day she's totally fine with it and open to talk, and then the next day she might trip out on me or say she cant handle it, she isnt ready....then sometimes when i bring up pressing charges, or telling her mom, she says she dunno where to find them and that last she heard one of the guys was in jail, but before she told me he had got out, and then she told me her uncle was last heard from right befoe Hurricane Katrina, but the other day she said last she heard her uncle was dead, then she changed it to in the hospital in critical condition...idk fellas, i just want the truth....and as for the sexual stuff...on our first date she pulled her pants down an was ready for it, then when i refused she later told me thank you for respecting her, but i told her no because i didnt have protection...i mean if i was dumb enough she probably woulda did it. Maybe she's using the "rape story" as an excuse for being fast? I mean she's not fast anymore, ive told her about that and we've grown a lot..i love her, but this rape thing is a blur to me and i just want to know the truth, ya kno???

I've told her plenty of times that the stories didnt add up, and the next time she tells it to me me its different. She;s also lied about losing her virginity...she told me that her 1st bf forced her into doing it...then later in the relationship with me she talks about how active they were.....wtf?? if he forced you the first time, why would she stay with him??? I jus think thats not too likely.......but Okay, check this out...we got into a discussion about it and she was like im not ready to deal with it, yet she was openly talking about it and didnt say she wasnt ready to deal with it until i brought up telling her mom. So I asked one of her ex bfs what they did for her 14th or 15th bday party, he said they went to the movies or jus chilled at home. So that would completely rule out the whole uncle story right??? I was also gonna ask her mom what they did for her 14th and 15th bday parties and see what she said...if her story doesnt match my gfs then I can conclude she's lying....right??
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Old 04-03-2008, 04:15 PM
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I dont want to set anyone in trouble in her BUT lookt at it,She is clearly trying to make up a fairy tale in here....Dude she is lieing
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You've already figured it out.
What's the point of this anyways?
Is she refusing to have sex with you? If not, then there is no problem to what she says.
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Old 04-04-2008, 04:22 AM
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You've already figured it out.
What's the point of this anyways?
Is she refusing to have sex with you? If not, then there is no problem to what she says.
Is that all that matters? Sex? Halleluja
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Old 04-20-2008, 02:29 PM
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She's your girlfriend. Why are you doubting her? A relationship is build on trust. Trust in a relationship will make it more strong.
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She is lying for atetion even if you showing her some show her more. But thats not a reason to lie
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dude she is lieing you are exactly right her stories in anyway don't match up i don't know why she would want to do that but whatever she is def. lieing
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hey Umm...
2 MANY STORIES, um mabey she did have a problem in her life but also she might just be takin u for a ride uneed 2 talk to her m8
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Old 09-27-2008, 03:09 AM
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she obviously is your just going have to say to her that you know she is lying and just to ask what shes trying to hide. i think shes bizzarke no offence. don't trust someone who lies to you.
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