I've been talking to this guy for a while, and at one point my best friend told me that he's a bad guy. i stopped talking to him for a while because of it, but then we started talking again. more recently, i found out that he got one of his exes pregnant, and i didn't know what to think. he apologized to me for not telling me, but it's not like me and him are together or anything. he kept telling me that he was sorry, so i decided to talk to him about the whole situation. he asked me what he thought about him, and i told him "i think you're an idiot for getting yourself in this situation, but at least you're man enough for taking care of your kid." we talked about it, and he was telling me how he's trying to smarten up and be a good guy so his kid can have a good dad. i know that i'm not stupid enough to do something that i don't want to do, even if he wants to do it. if you were in my situation, would you give the guy a chance?

well, ima guy...sooo lol
i'd say give him a chance...just be VERY wary

realize the consequences of if u get involved...wuts gonna happen if u develop a relationship with him

a kid can affect alot of things, especially if it isnt yours

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No. Don't tempt yourself. If you stay clear away from the problem(him), then less problems in the future will arise.

You should give him a chance. Just because he's had a child doesn't automatically make him a bad person. If that's the case, a lot of people in the world are out of luck.

He's manning up and taking care of the situation (his child, education, and his role as a father) so in my eyes, he gains total respect. What I don't respect is when kids/teens/young adults/adults (people in general) have kids that have no financial or educational grounds to fall back on to support and care for that child.

In short, go for it. What you shouldn't do is have sex with the guy until you both are able to provide for a child that you *could* possibly have.

i couldn't have put it better myself

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Well it all really depends,
Get to know him a bit more. Then decide what to do
But from what you've already said I would be veryyy wary.
You don't know if this guy is out to kill you, or what.
So yes give him a small chance, but remember to keep up your boundaries.