Hello my names Mike and i've kinda come on here for help...
This is embarassing for me so please don't judge..
i am 18yrs old, and have been for the past month and i have never had a girlfriend or been in any kind of relationship
I'm not an outgoing person and kinda self-conscious alot of the time and shy. But i have a good personality, a loving humourous one that would stand out if given the right chance, but it had just never worked i'm not bad looking, i mean i used to be skinny but i have toned up quite nicely now, i dnt go out much drinking nd wot not but i like keeping fit.
Has ne oen got ne advice for me please?
i'd be much much appriciated....

plz reply

...regards..

Mike. x

Wrong forummmmmm.

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Have you ever once in your life reached out to touch infinity?

First, stop writing like a fucking idiot.
ne is not any, and you can take the time to type one more fucking letter.
Building your confidence is the first step. Once you have that, you're 90-95% done.

Ok no need for corse language here.
But do you have "any" (there you are) suggestions in confidence building techniquies?

there are LOADS of ways to start building confidence
i actually started mine with hypno-therapy
of course, starting with conscious and then moving into unconscious

but if you just want a hands on approach, just go out and start saying "hey" to EVERY girl you come into eye-contact with. Then try starting a conversation with them..."hey how are you?" "hey wuts up?"

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thanks i'll give that a go. Hypno therpay sounds really good though how old were you when you started it? and how much did it cost you more imortantly..

Well you knew what he meant by "ne" so does it really matter if he spelt it right or not?

Anyway, I know loads of people who've had their first relationship when they're 18+ so it's not like you're on your own.

Also, like other people have said confidence is a BIG thing sadly, I've gained alot more confidence in the past few months and it's making my life a while lot better

Tbh I think most (not all, but most) relationships before you're 18 end badly, maybe it's a good thing you haven't had a gf until you're 18 years old

Good luck <3

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thank you for that reply it made me feel better =]

how did you go about buildin/gaining your confidence btw?

x

No problem

Tbh I don't really know... I started talking to my friend Bex online more (on myspace/msn loads) then met her up one day, I kept thinking to myself "omg, I'm so nervous, I hate meeting new people, what should I do/say?" then I was weirdly fine with her.

Just try and meet new people is all I can say really

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Don't do that dude lol. You can do it yourself.
Njord has a blog he's going to post, which he started a few days ago. It has confidence building techniques and detailed analysis/summaries of why you may not have confidence and how to get it back.
http://p2valhalla.blogspot.com/
There's currently 2 chapters on confidence, Self and Social. So see if that helps.