Wait, couldn't he be a carrier but not infected? I thought you couldn't detect that?

Nope, you can't. I know someone who is like that. He passed it onto his current girlfriend and she shows symptoms and it came up in a test. He shows symptoms but whenever he gets blood tested or anything like that, he comes up negative.

How about practicing abstinence?!

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God closed his eyes and turned his back.
If he doesn't see, then he doesn't act.

Sex is part of a relationship, why should they be deprived of that?

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That was a joke. I don't practice abstinence but um..you don't have to have sex if you are in a relationship if you don't want to. That is what many girls and some guys think. They think that they have to so they will be liked by the other person, you know? They don't want to be known as the 'little girl who never puts out' and shit like that. They think it is insulting.

Another thing is that young people think they know what love is and they do it because they are oh-so 'in love' with the person that they are with when they really aren't.
I've been there. I mean, that is the reason why I lost my virginity but I was with the guy for almost two years before we did anything.
I don't sleep around or have fuck buddies or anything like that but the guys that I have done stuff with meant a lot to me at the time and still do to this day.

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God closed his eyes and turned his back.
If he doesn't see, then he doesn't act.

Seriously, that's a bit strange. Most guys aren't virgins anymore. But maybe he is, who really knows. My ex boyfriend use to go around bragging about how many girls he fucked and then he came to me one night and told me he was only lying. It shocked me because hey, maybe he just wanted to get into my pants because I was a true virgin.

He wants to insure his health. And if you were in his shoes then you probably would do the exact same thing. Maybe he's guilty because he might be the one with the disease. Take him along with you. If you have to go through that than so should he.

Aw, don't take that from him.

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What do u do when your heart is ripped into a million peaces.

I don't think it's that "nasty' of him if he's ready to take it with you. There are many other ways one can take HIV and they don't have to rely on sex. If he's that willing to have you checked, why not take him by the hand and do it together. If he refuses this he's just a jerk. My opinion. I'd never had anything against doing a checkup with the guy, but to be the only one to have to test would kinda mean to me he's seeing me as a whore, and that's not OK.

I say do it, and just like elisa said, take your boyfriend with you

It's never a bad time to go to the doctors and it's understandable that your boyfriend wants that from you. These days you never know what can happen.
Don't see it like he doesn't trust you, look at this like a test for you too.

It's always nice to be safe.